get out of your own way

Are you aware of all the ways that you get in your own way?  I didn’t realize just how many excuses I was using to stop myself from living the life I wanted to live.  I didn’t have a real dream or vision.  I was waiting for some spark to light me up to figure out what I was supposed to be doing in life.  I kept going through the motions and taking jobs that friends and family thought I should be doing.  Well, no one else’s career ideas seemed to be working in my favor.  Nothing was doing it for me. I was bored, frustrated, and broke.   My mind and ego had control over me and I felt paralyzed. 

I have to break the cycle and I’m going to have to do it solo.  I have to stop living for other people’s opinions and expectations.  I used to be a strong decisive independent woman?  Where did she go?  I used to get everything I wanted.  I used to have confidence and demand respect.  The older I got and the more challenges that came my way, I started to shrink.  As my 30’s kept progressing, the harder it was to find that woman I used to be?  I lost her?  How can that be?  Fear and doubt that I would never find her consumed me.  I finally hit my bottom and was sick and tired of being sick and tired.  I hated living life on a hamster wheel.  I AM NOT THIS PERSON!  I WAS MEANT FOR MORE!

That’s when I started on a mission figure it out!  I’m jumping off the hamster wheel and I’m enlisting help.  I was going to fix myself and get to the bottom of this.  I know she is in there and she has a dream.  I need to find her and bring her back to life.  I’m still a single girl with nothing in her way and no one holding her back!  How many people are blessed to be able to be take care of and think only of themselves?  Get out of your own way and excuses woman!!! You’re too old for this shit!

Do any of these words come out of your mouth or occupy space in your mind? 

Limiting words to be Aware of:

1.            I don’t like it

2.            I don’t want to

3.            I don’t feel like it

4.           I don’t know what to do

5.           I don’t know what I want to do when I grow up

6.           I can’t do that because

7.           I hate doing that

8.           I’ve never done that before

9.           I shouldn’t do that

10.         I won’t be able to

11.         Why does this always happen to me

12.         Why don’t things go my way

13.         What if it doesn’t work out

14.         I have to ask my parents, partner, friends

15.         My parents, partner, friends wouldn’t like that

16.         My parents, partner, friends said I shouldn’t do that

17.         I have something else to do

18.         I will when I have the money

19.         I will when I have time

20.         I’ve tried that before

Well it’s time to stop and get out of your own way.  Becoming more self-aware is the first step to creating change in your life.  If you are ready to be the person you always thought you would be, you need to stop using these excuses and start living life on your terms.  Don’t let the mind and ego win.  Don’t live your life based on other people’s opinions and expectations. 

You were meant for more too.  If I can do it, you can too.